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“The truth will piss you off before it sets you free”
This is the phrase that came to mind when I received, what was supposed to be, constructive feedback on a situation. I sent an email to someone in a professional capacity to find out what I could do to improve, to express the issues I was having and to get a better understanding of what I needed to do to give them what they needed professionally.
The flood gates opened!
In a nutshell I was told that I was lazy and incompetent; that I should be lucky to be because I had no experience from jump…and how dare I question the training expertise of someone with oodles more experience. Oh and my email that was about what I need to do to improve? Was rude because I insulted the receiver.
I won’t even get into how fish grease hot I was…for two weeks. I mean I was HOT y'all! PISSED! I won’t even get into the holes I poked in her reply (to myself and to E.) or how I’ve read it every single day since she sent it. I also won’t say how this person, who I considered my friend, friend, has been talking behind my back. Nope, won’t do it. However, reading her email and knowing what I know about her personal life, makes a lot of things that has/is going on in her life make complete sense now; but I won’t talk about that either.
I will talk about how I had to stop being angry long enough to take the constructive criticism out of the email which was what I initially needed. Those criticisms are appreciated. Nonetheless, things are now strained and stressful. I also feel things are brewing that I have no control over so I am thinking and behaving proactively. I have no worries about those things because I TRULY know where my help comes from.
The thing that hurts the worst is that I am losing a friend. Someone I loved like family, someone I shared secrets and inside jokes with, whose kids I cared about, whose life I cared about. I will miss that so much. Today, however, I will officially cry it out and come to peace with how this former friendship is ending. My heart truly aches because of it. One thing I’m certain of is that I know my heart will heal and I will still be open to building new friendships.
“People enter your life for a season, reason or lifetime”
I think that’s how that quote goes.
4 comments:
No Nessa! Say it ain't so. I know you were like "well damn, get out your true feelings for me, why don't ya" after reading her response.
But doll, remember people come into your life for "reasons and seasons". God moves people to clear out clutter (simplify things) or to make room for bigger and better things.
I'm glad you were able to move on with the criticsm that was given to make a better way for yourself.
Lemme know if you wanna TP her house...you know I'm good for a drive by.
Love ya
Nessa, I was laughing and crying (at the same damn time) when I read this last night. Thank you!
I'm sorry you had to end your friendship, chica. I'm sure you're doing what's best for you. I'm weak @ Jaimee! ROFL!
So sorry this happened to you. Clearly for this person to take it that far with you.. she has had issue with you for sometime. Sad it had to come out like this. No one likes their character attacked. You're doing right tho. Just pray about it, cry it out and move on. Either way what will be will be. I could say more about what should happen to her.. but I won't LOL!
@Jamiee is funny!!! That's what I'm talkin' bout. Have my back! LOL!
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